Sunday was Bashert’s birthday. Birthdays are a big thing for her, since many of the other popular holidays throughout the year were not celebrated by her family. Birthdays were fun, but not earth shattering events for my family. As I’ve noted before, I can be kind of dense about some things, so its taken me a few years to realize the importance of the day.
I have a hard time being super creative in a celebratory way. Most of that talent lies with Bashert. She once had me invite all the people and then decorate my parent’s home for my own surprise birthday party.
I’ve only been able to surprise her a couple of times during our 15 years.
When she turned 40, I gave her a gift a day forty days out from her birthday. Each gift was accompanied by a short poem to hint at what the gift was to be. I gave her all manner of stuffs – from a secret message painted on the ceiling (glow in the dark paint) to lip balm to a surprise visit from her sister (who came bearing chocolate cake!). That was challenging, but fun.
This year, she received her most of her birthday a little early. The first part was a little bit selfish on my part. She was so totally frustrated with her iPad I dropping her from the internet and I was so totally frustrated hearing the sighs, that I packed up Yoda and part of our tax return and went straight to the Apple store. We came home with a laptop. Surprise! No more sighs from either of us.
I had not planned anything specific for her actual birthday. We were to be out of town Friday and Saturday for Passover at her sister’s place. And then it happened. I was in the back room working on my term paper (which I should be doing now) Friday night and I could hear them discussing dogs.
I had internet connection and ding! went my email. Seems Bashert’s sister, Miriam had found a couple of dachshund puppies offered on Craigslist in our area. I snuck a look and said for those faces, I could try again. The next day started an email exchange that ended up with a meeting to take place on Sunday.
Once we saw the little thing, there was no doubt he would be coming home with us. If the other people who had driven all the way from North Carolina had decided against his sister, I believe we would have taken her too.
So, enter Moses, a nine week old, long haired, mini dachshund. He is a beautiful black and tan and full of personality. He won’t be much over 10 lbs once fully grown and he has stolen our hearts. Well, most of our hearts. The cats aren’t too happy with the new addition, yet.
The older ones haven’t gotten over adding in Ruthie the 3-legged kitten and Ruthie is a little put out about not being the baby anymore. The pain of the lost dogs still haunts us, but as with all blended families, it just takes time.
We’ll get there.
Happy Birthday, Bashert!